How is the Taste Regarding Your Food?


Walk into a store and you will typically be greeted by a wall of staff. But do will they know what it is that you’re looking for?

It takes a little while to get used to the service experience here.   It starts with the different use of English. I’m not talking about the distinctive accent or pronunciation, although that certainly adds to things.  Its the mixture of missionary English, American English and unique Filipino phrases, that sometimes ask the ear to do a double take. Always polite, always sincere, the phrase comes at you, and the brain says “What?!”

“How is the Taste Regarding Your Food?” was a recent inquiry put to me from a waitress in Shakeys Restaurant.  She was checking whether we were happy with our food.  Its a much more formal way of asking “Everything ok?”   And a much quirkier way of asking “Is everything to your satisfaction?”  It sort of nailed it for me with the language barrier.

And there are other new experiences to handle when you first arrive and are purchasing something:  anything, like a cup of coffee or household supplies.  I can’t remember exactly where we first did it, but our initial experience at the department store in Metro Market is the one that I remember best:  You’re standing at the cashier island, with one person in front of you. There are two employees and two cash registers.  The first employee is involved in ringing up the first sale.  So you stand near the empty register and hand your item to the second employee — the one not doing anything — and hand her your item expectantly.  She very politely signals that the other employee will handle your transaction and steps back.  (It took me two tries at this on two separate occasions to figure out that the second person’s job was as bagger.  Baggers don’t use the register. Cashiers don’t bag. Get used to it.)  Its your turn and both ladies do their jobs and you hand over the money, then she says it:  I receive one thousand pesos, mam.  Or I receive the exact exchange, mam.  She’s signalling the denomination for the cash received and it has to — always — be stated out loud.  I don’t bat an eye anymore when it happens but it takes at least a dozen transactions to get used to.  Orders are the same way in the restaurant:

Customer:  Can I have a cup of black coffee please?
Waitress: Yes mam.  I repeat your order.  One cup of black coffee.  Thank you.

I repeat your order, Mr President…..

If you’re not expecting it, it throws you, especially if your ear is not tuned to the accent yet.  Your order will *always* be repeated back to you at every restaurant, every time.  No matter how long or short your list.

Transactions here are very formalized and regimented. You see the rows of employees outside the store first thing or at shift change, the supervisor drilling them on something, probably the same thing they were drilled on yesterday.  Cashiers are taught to ask customers if you have the company loyalty card at the beginning of a sale.  But if the answer in no, that conversation is over.  They don’t try and get you sign up for one (thank god!) but they can’t answer you on how to obtain one either. (No one trained them on that).

The whole transaction experience is a reflection of the values of where you are, where ever you are.  It is frustrating when there are five people serving you, but none are able to help you, or no one can think outside of the box to solve your problem.  But compared to other places where no one can be bothered to serve you, there is no one to serve you, or where you have to beg for a menu – here its a positive pleasure.  Returning to the Philippines after Greece to smiling, courteous faces is a bit of a relief.  Of course I’d like competency with courtesy and friendliness, but two out of three ain’t bad!  Its also a striking contrast to have a minimum of two assistants in a world that’s heading increasingly towards self-check out.  How’s the service where you are?

Marine Ball 2012


It Ball Season again here in Manila and the city has the traffic to prove it!  We braved it last night and headed out to the 2012 Marine Ball all glammed up.  Mega salon treatment, hair and make up’ed later, here are the results of Team Caroline’s valiant efforts.

For those that didn’t read this blog’s report last year, the Marine Ball is the annual celebration of all things Marine, and parties are held worldwide in November.  There’s lots of pageantry, formal dress uniforms,a few speeches, and a very big cake cut with a sword.  And, of course, dancing and the chance to see friends and colleagues all dressed up.

It was fun, but one ball a year is definitely enough for me.  I don’t know how the socialite crowd do it!  Happy 237th birthday Marines!

More Fun in The Philippines


Latham’s preparing for his HS final film production and they want to include a green screen shot of a woman driving.  So this weekend they ran a few green screen tests.  Here’s his friend Carl goofing around to music to test the green screen and lighting.  Keep watching ….around the 1:00 mark, it all falls apart!  Makes me laugh every time…!

P.S.  I love how the green screen picks up the trees and makes them look like they’re on fire!!

How to Toilet Train Your Cat


Butter wouldn’t melt….

Latham told me that as he was heading off to college next year, I should take this opportunity to buy a cat as a child replacement, or use it as an excuse anyway.  It was his way of trying to talk me into getting a cat.  I was pretty adamant that we didn’t need another pet in our mobile lives.  The cost, worries and sheer logistics just logically weigh the benefits of having a small, warm creature curled up on your lap every night.  Also, with Latham off to college, I can think of other things to do with my time than just have another entity to look after all the time.  But after a year of being worn down by cute kittens in the pet shop window and heavy hints from Robert and Latham, I finally succumbed, and last September we bought a very cute siamese.  And with her came the dreaded world of pet travel rules and regs, airline restrictions, and worst of all, what to do with her during the complexities of changing post.  Like I say….a bad idea in every way except that we all wanted a cat again.  Logic loses to emotion, yet again.

So over here in teenage land, I am dealing with potty training again.  Living in a high rise apartment meant a kitty litter tray – we’ve never had to have one for any length of time before — and its nuisance and smell.  Plus kitty litter is very expensive here.  (A ridiculous, heavy, luxury import if you think about it.)  Our helper very graciously does most of the dirty work, but our kitchen area is completely unliveable without some scooping upkeep by yours truly.
Tired of the expensive kitty litter and smelly bathroom, I looked online for alternative litter tray products and in the process discovered the wonderful world of toilet trained cats.  The prospect of toilet training her so that she did everything but flush, was very appealing and we started the process about a couple of months ago.

I’ll spare you pictures of the first part.  Essentially you just move the kitty litter tray from its original location, slowly, until it is located adjacent to the toilet.  Then, as she accepts that, you start raising it, slowly…using boxes or telephone directories ….one at a time…. until the kitty litter tray is parallel in height to the toilet seat.  Its very important that the raised tray is secure, non wobbling and able to take the force of her leap without scaring her. Depending how far away the tray’s current location is from the proposed toilet, this could take days or a few weeks.

Once you have it parallel to the seat, you move it on to the seat itself.  Leave it there for a while.  She is now jumping up on to the toilet seat to do her business.  An important goal has been reached.  Again, structural security is everything.  Use lots of duct tape!  Make sure that the toilet seat lid is taped in the open position.  You don’t want that to come crashing down accidentally and ruin your progress.

Now comes the tricky bit. The litter tray has to go.  But cats like to dig and scratch around, and the noise of the water below can be a bit scary. So again, slowly is the key.

Raise the lower toilet seat and tape a disposable aluminium pan to the inside of the ceramic bowl.  It has to be tabled really securely and able to take the weight of the cat, Here’s my first insert:

Note ample duct tape securely affixed to clean dry surface. Can’t emphasis this enough!

Lower the seat so kitty has somewhere to learn to stand and balance and you have this….which is starting to look awfuly familiar:

The next step was to be cutting a small hole in the center of the aluminum tray. However, my husband unexpectedly stepped in and bought me the “Litter Kwitter” kitty training set, which does all the construction work for you. I had spotted it online, but as it cost $50 and I knew I could pull the whole thing off with cheap aluminum trays and a pair of scissors, I was too cheap to purchase it. But he did, and yes,it was easier with the pre-made trays, but doing it yourself is very feasible too. Just keep enlarging the hole — slowly over time.

As we were now Litter Kwitter owners, after 1-2 weeks of the pan in place as before, I inserted the orange LK disc, which has a medium sized hole as below:

This was the hardest stage so far. For the first week or two she missed more often than not. At first, we think she never aimed for the hole, hitting the water only accidentally as she tried to use the litter area around the edge. For us though, it was already a success as just having to flick turds from the ledge into the water and flushing was so vastly better than the litter tray. After about a month she was only missing occasionally. There was never any clumping in the litter as the “shorter” visits were hitting the water 100% of the time. Time to move on to the green ring:

More of the same, of course, except the hole is bigger. This is the stage we are at currently and I expect things to progress now so that we don’t need anything in a month or two. Even if she never progressed on from here, the smell and mess is negligible. I could happy stay here and never worry about a litter tray again.

Bottom line is that my description might make this sound like a lot of work for a long time. It isn’t. You don’t have to be diligent. There’s no timetable. I can forget about the plan for a week or two and life goes on. In fact that’s better, as slowly is the key to success. Of course, for an FS family, we do still have one more problem: How easily do toilet trained cats use other human toilets? Can I take her to a new bathroom in our Nepal home and will she adapt? Can I pop into the Ladies room with her at the airport en route? I guess we’ll have to wait and see!

Halloween in the Tropics


 

When we lived in NJ, October 31 was around the turning point for the weather.  The trees were still pretty with autumn leaves and the weather was pleasantly nippy, but not cold yet.  Halloween was mixed with the best of the fall, and kids could do things like wrap themselves in bandages as a mummy or wear black plastic sacks to be witches.  We’d bundle them up warm under the costumes and head out for candy.  You could see the kids’ breath when they yelled, “Trick or Treat!”

Not so in Manila.  Late October is the end of the rainy season and the weather is starting to get a bit drier and sunnier.  But we’ve had typhoons disrupt the Halloween festivities before, so they are no guarantees of a rain-free event.  But last Saturday our early Embassy Halloween party was dry with even the occasional breeze.  But that didn’t mean there weren’t a lot of sweaty spidermen in their black stretchy costumes, running around in the heat.  Its hard to wear a mask or man-made synthetic outfit without a river running down your neck or back.  And a kids party is not really the place to come as Tarzan, Pam from Baywatch or some other scantily clad character.  But that would have been much more practical!  I think everyone had fun though, they just headed back into the AC when things got too hot.

Halloween is surprisingly big here in Manila.  Not as big as Christmas, of course, but noticeably present.  But then Filipinos do have a propensity towards many things American, and Halloween is also a big dress up event.  Filipinos love parties, dressing up, all things sweet…so what’s not to love?  Well..costumes and humidity perhaps.  And there seems to be some that consider it anti-Christian, but despite the church and the weather it continues to grow in popularity.  Happy early Halloween everyone! 

Dangwa Flower Market


Its no secret that I love markets and this blog has had quite a run on them lately.  I’ve been back to Divisoria twice since my first visit, and each trip was a completely different shopping experience each time. Divisoria is such a warren, after three visits I can barely say that I recognize anything still.  It might take half a dozen visits and a good map before I’m brave enough to tackle it by myself.

Quite different was my trip last week was to Dangwa Flower Market.  It’s somewhere I’ve wanted to visit since I first heard about it.  Not only is it a market, but wonderfully colorful, selling flowers at really reasonable prices.  There’s something about flowers that always lifts the spirits and to see masses and masses of them — a riot of colour — stretching out as far as the eye can see was a great pick me up at the end of a busy week.

For the equivalent of about ten dollars I bought 4 dozen roses, a dozen giant lillies, a selection of interesting leaves and berries, and three dozen pretty orange flowers that I’ve forgotten the name of.  Not bad.

The Dangwa experience is very different from Divisoria.  Its a 24 hour market which is busy but not heaving because buyers come at different times of the day.  The streets are paved, relatively clean and organized.  Its much smaller and more civilized.  I would totally go back by myself to look around.

Dangwa’s more civilized streets

Most of the flowers come from Bagio, a cooler area in Northern Luzon, and are brought down to Manila in unrefrigerated trucks in the early hours.  Then, depending on the day of the week and the time of year, they suffering differing extents of stress as they sit in the stalls outside waiting for buyers.  I was lucky enough to have a local flower arranger take our tour around the market on a Thursday in October.  She taught us that shopping there at the end of the week in the cooler months helped with both quality and variety of selection.  And she was right, we were there on a good day.  Everything looked fresh and good.  However, flowers in the Philippines are known not to last so long.  The heat, humidity and stress they encounter takes it toll.  We further compounded the problem by leaving the flowers for 4 hours (without water) in a hot van while we attended a flower arrangement class.  Then mine sat in my office for a further 4 hours before I went home.  The flowers were limp to say the least when I got home.  By Monday the petals were starting to drop.  If I hadn’t been so abusive, I’m sure I would have gotten a week out of everything I purchased.  I will definitely return — with a friend — as Dangwa is a great experience to be shared and takes the quality of Manila life up a notch.  Blooming lovely!

An Acquired Taste


Balut. The notorious Filipino street dish. Its a duck embryo inside of a hard boiled egg. A powerhouse of cheap protein, but maybe not to everyone’s taste.

American/European meat preferences are quite different to mainstream Filipino expectations.  Filipinos use every part of the animal to cook, and are very creative in utilizing body parts that westerners turn their nose up at: tongue, heart, lung, feet, bone marrow, cartilidge…you name it.  Most westerners squirm and make faces at just the thought of grilled lung on a stick.  I don’t eat meat at all, so I take the western luxury of choice and preference to a whole new level.  Vegetarianism is truly a luxury for those that can afford it or, for the poor or devote (not in the Philippines), the most dire and humble of diets.  An interesting contrast.

No-one I know has been hungry enough to eat anything they can find or choose to eat only lentils because of necessity.  I appreciate and admire the filipino ethic of zero waste, but as I won’t even go near Western meat recipes, I remain an interested onlooker in all of this.

The Filipino diet may originate from poverty, but middle-class and rich Filipino palates are more open to diverse meat dishes, so it a cultural thing as well.  The western palate largely confines itself to flavourful tender, lean cuts.  However tasty the flavour potential may be, westerners aren’t usually willing to dig around and work for their food, or to chew and chew to extract it.  This means no bones, no fat, no poking around with a fork to pull out the roe.

Filipino flavours also tend to be on the sweet side for Westerners.  My European palate thought Americans added sugar to everything.  Then I came here.  The bread is sweet, the mayonnaise is sweet, the meat sauces have a lot of sugar in them.  Unlike the Chinese sweet and sour concept, there less balancing of flavour.  Filipinos do add kalamansi to many dishes (its a small native lime) but its not always enough in my opinion.

So when a newly-arrived American family that has never lived overseas, is served chicken adobo by their newly-hired Filipino cook, there can be some surprises on both sides.  The cook may feel she’s done a good job of serving a tasty economical meal.  The American is wondering why there is a pile of bones and tons of rice.  Its a common point of contention, and some helpers who have worked for American families for years have learnt about American preferences.  Many others haven’t.

Which way is better is irrelevant if you’re not serving food that your employer likes.  So we decided to assist a little and run a cooking class for helpers on how to serve classic Filipino dishes to Americans.  It was well attended, and everyone had a great time.

The ladies from our Filipino Cookery for Americans class

I popped in from time-to-time during the work day to see how it was going.  Of course, the class was in Tagalog, so I could only watch and couldn’t understand the instructors message.  I did wonder a little if it became an exchange of regional differences on the each dish, rather than a lesson on American preferences.  Or perhaps it was both, I can only really learn from the sponsoring families whether anything has changed at the dining table.  Time will tell on that.  However, the morning itself was great fun, and a it was a privilege to be invited to eat with everyone at the end of their efforts.  I also learnt how many food items I mispronounce!

On the food front, personally, I continue to be mostly uninspired here.  Its been fun cooking with the tropical fruit, but I’ve found the lack of fresh vegetables challenging and without easy access to markets, my food imagination has suffered. I’m not the cook my friends might remember, and this is the first country that I’ve lived in where I haven’t learnt to prepare the local dishes.  I don’t expect that to change before we leave, but hope Nepal’s temperate growing climate and more vegetarian-based cuisine will inspire me again.

P.S.  Here’s a link to an interesting BBC article on Filipino cuisine:  http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-19541960

P.P.S.  No, I won’t be trying Balut any time soon!

Would you like fries with that?..


There are lots of lots of opportunities for home delivery of food here in Manila.  Just about everyone does home deliver … even McDonalds….even non-chain, independent restaurants.   You see the delivery motorbikes all the time, making dangerous moves in and out of the traffic.  We don’t really do it usually, but last night was an exception.  Latham had his final TOK rehearsal with his presentation partner, and I bought them delivered pizza to keep ’em going and keep ’em focused.

When the pizza showed up, I didn’t give it much thought.  It was just a pizza delivery. But what transpired was really adorable and sort of left me gaping.  The conversation went something like this:

Pizza Delivery Guy:  Good evening mam.  I present to you your pizza delivery.  Presenting your ham and bacon pizza, mam. <removes insulated carrier from his insulated back pack>

Me: Oh, er, thank you very much.

Pizza Guy:  Your pizza, mam, is delivered to you at 7:03pm, mam. A delivery of 24 minutes, mam.

Me: That’s great, thank you

Pizza Guy:  <removes pizza from carrier>.  Mam, this is your HOT on the DOT pizza. <he whips out a small plastic circular device and holds it over a thermal circle on the box. The disc reads “hot”> As you can see it is delivered Hot on the Dot.  <He points to the circle>

Me:  Oh, thank you, that’s great.

Delivery Guy: <opens box letting out half of the heat> Your pizza mam.  With no mushrooms as you asked.

<produces another box> Also, mam, your pigs in a blanket, mam.

Me: Thank you

Delivery Guy: <whips out a bottle from a previously unknown cooler on his other side>…and your Pepsi Max mam.  I must caution you to take care when removing the lid,  mam, to avoid accidents.

Me: Er, yes, good idea.  Let’s take care of the eyeballs. How much is that?….

Community Welcome Party


Every year, most new families arrive in the Summer.  We were Winter rotation and sort of showed up incognito, and had to learn alot of the “how to” and “where to” information about Manila on the fly.  This was nothing new to us, as prior to the foreign service, every time we changed country we were on our own to figure that stuff out.  So, it was sort of a surprise to us that the foreign service has a sponsor system utilizing families with experience of the post to show you around, plus different events to help you acclimatize.

Vendors setting up filipino goodies to sell

One of these events is held in September to welcome new families with filipino food, vendors, and a little filipino culture.

Tailors, vet, spas, local associations and others came to show newcomers their services

Organizing it was a real group activity with the ates (cleaners/helpers) doing lots of creative decorating with palm fronds, crepe paper and coconuts.  They built a simple nipa hut serving the traditional halo halo desert, a mixed concotion of shaved ice, fruits and evaporated milk.  A team of two filipino cooks prepared a filipino menu that included pork asado, chicken adobo and banana turon, all filipino favourites.  (We had been shopping for the food a few days earlier). Newcomers are sometimes immersed up to their necks in the challenges of settling into their new home and aren’t always the most appreciative of your efforts, but we had a pretty good turnout and I only heard good things from the crowd.

For me, the highlight of the day was the kids from the local elementary school who came to present a few traditional filipino dances and were just so adorable.  They were excited to come to the Embassy and did a really great job of dancing pretty intricate steps in gorgeous costumes.  They just lit up the room!  It wouldn’t have been the same party without them.

Discovering Divisoria


Part Two of our marathon party shop last week was to buy party decorations and other supplies from Divisoria, a sprawling street market, where you can buy anything and everything in different colours, shapes and sizes at vastly lower prices than anywhere else in Manila.   I’ve lived here for almost two years and yet last week was my first visit.  I’ve wanted to go for a while, but I knew it was best to tackle it with an experienced person (at least at first) as I don’t exactly blend in around there.  Pickpockets abound, not all vendors are honest, and its a real labyrinth if you don’t know your way around.

Its an assault on the senses in every possible way.  We visited after the heavy rain, so were lucky to find the streets unflooded, just really muddy.  Garbage is piled high in the middle of the streets, making the center traffic islands smelly and slippery.  Careful crossing the street!  Drains are clearly blocked by the debris, dramatically compounding the flooding problems.

Street with garbage-strewn centre island

Fortunately, the market wasn’t too busy.  At 10am it was still fairly civilized.  We picked our way through the narrow streets past distinct groups of different vendors:  car parts, fruit sellers, shoes, you name it.  It was hard to stay focused and move purposefully ahead with all the shiny objects beckoning in your peripheral vision, but we were on a mission looking for arts and crafts supplies, cheap toys for race prizes, and fruits and vegetables for the community dinner.

Meanwhile, my inner child is streaming my brain with dialogue like: Oh look at those shiny beads.  Why didn’t I realise before that I need shiny beads in fourty five different colours?  Wow, they’re so pretty.  I want to touch them. What can I make with all those beads?  I should learn to make jewelry…Oh look at those feathers… forty five different kinds of feathers….  But the first rule of shopping in places like this is to stay focused and look purposeful, so inner child suppressed, we headed in a small covered mall that sold crafts and toys.  I squeezed down the narrow rows between the warren of stalls and we found everything we were looking for within a few feet of each other. Goodness know how far back the labyrinth went, we never went the full distance in.  Instead we doubled back and headed to the fruits and vegetables.  The difference in quality between what I find in the grocery store and here was astounding.  The produce didn’t have the fresh dew still dripping from the stalk like in Greece, but I’m guessing most stuff was picked yesterday, not last week, unlike the unhappy looking veggies we so often see in S&R.  The prices were dramatically different too:  seedless grapes in Divisoria 120 pesos/kilo, in S&R about 300/kilo.  Carrots here, 30 pesos/kilos in S&R, 110 pesos/kilo.  Everything was considerably fresher and at least half the price.

Unfortunately, like the meat market earlier that day, going to Divisoria is a production and you need a crew to help.  So its not a weekly option for me.  However, I will certainly return before we leave, perhaps to look again at some of those shiny beads and heaven knows what else!